'You were screaming like a harpy and it was annoying': Enraged Mom removes son's bedroom door as punishment

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    Wood - "He got really mad. Said it's his 'right' to have a door, he deserves his privacy."
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    Font - AITA for removing the door to my son's room indefinitely? Not the A-hole Yesterday while I was making lunch I heard a really loud sound, as if the ceiling was falling or a bookshelf had fallen. My husband (41M) and daughter (17F) were out, the only other person in the house was my son (16M). I was pretty sure he was in his room, which is at the opposite side of the house from the kitchen, so while making my way there I checked every room and everything seemed in order.
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    Font - I knocked on my son's door and called his name, no answer. I must have knocked/called 3 times before trying to open the door which was locked. At this point I was getting really freaked out, thinking that maybe he tipped his wardrobe or bookshelf and it had fallen over him and he was passed out on the floor. I was basically screaming his name, no answer.
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    Font - I have no idea how I did it. I just threw myself the door and it broke. Now, clearly the door was already weak (I'm thinking termite?) but, yeah, it broke. My son was fine. He was freaked out about the door but fine. The sound was his TV with the volume at the max, apparently. And he didn't answer me calling because he didn't want me bothering his movie. His words were "You were screaming like a harpy and it was annoying, I was trying to watch the movie. Fix the door."
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    Font - I said no. I wasn't going to fix it since to "fix it" I would have to buy a new door and doors are expensive. And as soon as his dad got home he would remove the door entirely as it was too broken to just stay there. He got really mad. Said it's his "right" to have a door, he deserves his privacy. I said he had a door and while I was the one that broke it and it was a consequence of his actions, so if he wanted a door he would have to buy it (I know he doesn't have the money for it right
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    Font - AITA about the door? My husband is fine with it, says only I know how scared I was, so only I can know the appropriate punishment. I'm now terrified that if anything happens where we really need to reach my son, we won't be able to. But I have calmed down since and I'm wondering if maybe I'm the asshole.
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    Font - . WaftingThoughts - 1 day ago W222 & 2 More NTA. Replace the door, remove the TV from his room. 39.7k Reply Share
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    Product - ShiloX35 1 day ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [3... And install a door nob without a lock. 20.2k Reply
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    Font - OG_Trash Pandaz 1 day ag edited 2 hr. ago S2 YWBTA for not getting him a new door. He needs privacy, he doesn't need a TV. Think of different and better ways to discipline that don't remove his privacy and space. Kids typically dont need a TV if he didn't answer because of the TV take that away not his door.
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    Font - Lil-SD 1 day ago 4@32 & 4 More Sell the tv to pay for the new door... win- win 18.4k Reply
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    Font - dxlliris 1 day ago I usually say parents are always asshole for taking away doors, but this? Absolutely NTA. But you and your husband need to sit down and think about how to fix your son behaviour ASAP, because he's WAY out of line. 7.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Thart85 1 day ago NTA. If even half of this is accurate/true, your son is incredibly disrespectful. If not having a door is a punishment he doesn't like, no door for him then. If it were me, he also wouldn't have a tv, phone, tablet, laptop, gaming system etc... Saying "fu you "to a parent is almost always inexcusable. Top that with his nonchalant behavior about not answering you and then his raf "fix the door"... game over. 4.8k Reply Share
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    Font - sehub 1 day ago . Is everyone just completely skipping over the part where he says fu you to his mother lol. Not saying anything abt the door punishment, but your kid has 0 manners seriously 43.4k Reply Share
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    Font - throwawaysonsdoor OP- 1 day ago Thing is, he is super easygoing normally. We obviously have normal issues as he is a teenager, but he is a responsible kid. I'm not sure what happened yesterday. He has never cursed at me or his dad before. 1.8k Reply
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    Font - Hot potatoos. 1 day ago NTA - Fix the door but remove the TV. He is entitled to his privacy and should always have a door to close, but he lost TV privileges for having it up too loud and not answering you. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Impossible-Simple-62. 1 day ago edited 14 hr. ago 263 & 4 More Yta. Eta - thank you to everyone for your support and awards! Also, I'm not a kid. I'm an actual adult who believes children deserve to be treated like a person, including privacy for a door and for their adults to communicate appropriately. Kids model the adults in their life.
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    Font - 1. You seriously did not hear anything walking up to his room? You posted a comment that you would need to try to hear his TV when you were close. But were you screaming the whole way to his room, giving him the chance to turn it down? Because if he was really listening to his TV THAT loudly, you would have heard the movie from his door.
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    Font - 2. He commented that you "screamed like a harpy" and your husband said "only you know how scared you were in that moment" which makes me believe you over react often. Your son did not want to answer a door to someone screamjng bloody murder out of their room, esp if it leads to nothing major. And your husband not commenting shows that you want someone to agree with you, not hold you accountable. How often do you let your anxiety affect the people in your own home?
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    Font - 3. He cursed at you because you decided he did not deserve privacy and you demanded he pay for the door. He is not caring of your feelings because you told him your feelings take priority! You "felt" something scary, over reacted, then doubled down. No apology for over reacting and shifting the blame away from you. And you're teaching your son that it is okay to react that way, so he is going to find ways to hurt your feelings. Him telling you to fu off is the least of your concerns.
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    Font - You need to pay for his door ASAP if you want to build your relationship. And see a therapist because you seriously need to look inwards. T967 Reply Share

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